Dr. Jeanine Austin

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After the Show: An Honest Reflection
By Cheryl Kohagen

In 2005/2006, my husband and I appeared on a Reality Show called Starting Over. While the show was designed to help women to start over, the beginning of the third season featured couples going through "Relationship Bootcamp". Troy and I appeared in that segment of the show. It was the first time they had brought men into the Starting Over house as cast members. The couples segment ran for the first three weeks of the third season with a follow-up at the end of the season. Starting Over was a show that aired daily on NBC for an hour and lasted for three seasons. It was produced by Bunim/Murray Productions, who also produced MTV's long-running "The Real World". Starting Over was an immensely addictive show that offered a unique perspective into the lives of people (generally women) who were trying to make a better life for themselves. The circumstances, adversity and courage that most of the women on this show shared were tremendously inspiring. I feel fortunate to have been given the opportunity to experience the production side of filming such a show and it is something that I occasionally reflect back on and draw more meaning from. In many ways it was a lesson in humility and in other ways it was a crash course in reality but mostly it was a unique caveat to add to my repertoire of life experiences.

Starting Over featured life coaches and a psychologist that helped women (and men) to start over. I love the concept of life coaching because it focuses on building one's life from one's strengths. I was fortunate to have met and worked with two of the most famous life coaches out there, Rhonda Britten and Iyanla Vanzant. Since my own personal Starting Over experience, I have continued to work with a life coach and I still thoroughly enjoy the focus and renewed energy that comes with building my future based on my personal strengths. These days I am a client of Dr. Jeanine Austin.

Going through the editing process of appearing on a television reality show was not so favorably of an experience. Most of what I was portrayed as was wrong and for a long time I was hurt deeply by the misrepresentation of my character. Thank God that most people, including myself, are either forgiving or forgetful of what they watched on the show. Reality TV works because it sensationalizes and dramatizes the everyday person. Our society is made up of a vast network of personalities and identities. Our culture plays on certain personality types and often deems it appropriate to criticize and judge those who stand out.

Of course, producers are keen to those perceptions and are skilled at developing shows that give the viewer a good well-rounded and sometimes slanted look into the lives of others. When producers can put together an intriguing and believable set of scenes, portraying each individual a certain way consistently, the show comes off as believable. One of my lessons in humility and reality was learning how little control I had over how I was presented.

For the past couple of years I have struggled with how to fit this piece of my life into conversation with others. Should I talk about it? Did I want to talk about it? At first I didn't want anything to do with it. I was embarrassed about how I was presented; this facilitated the anger I felt when I thought about it. Time has helped me to put the anger into perspective and finally release it. Now I am left with a memory and I have worked to pull as much positive from it as I can. I can finally tell people that I was on a reality show. It is actually kind of cool to be able to say that I did that. I am proud that I am the kind of person who goes after her dreams and is often successful at making them come true, even when they turn out to be different from what I expected.

For those of you who didn't watch the show or who have never even heard of it, you may be wondering what "Relationship Bootcamp" was all about. There were four couples, three married and one couple dating (they are now married). We all had different reasons for being on the show. The show highlighted parts of each couple's story and featured everyone working together as a group and individually, as couples, with their life coaches to build stronger relationships.

When aired, there was drama, lots of tears, lessons on relationships, and more tears. Behind the scenes and not aired, there was laughter, camaraderie, closeness, respect, incredible resilience and strength…and more tears. I have so much respect for the other cast members and I am glad that I was able to share that experience with them. The other cast members on the show with us were Jaclyn and Michael, Lou and Jen, Kacie and Simon.

Cheryl can be reached at www.myspace.com/cheryl_lee_p or via email at tcc.kohagen@comcast.net

 

 

Dr. Jeanine Interviews
Rev. Carmen J Day
The Wealth4U Life Coach &
~Visionary Extraordinaire~!

Rev. Carmen J. Day

JA: Why is it important to see with the eyes of spirit versus the eyes of the world?

CJD: In renewing the mind, we are in essence rewiring our thought processes. What a person takes in through the five senses, in this case the eyes…shape our thoughts because we begin the analytical, judgmental processes, which dictate our perception (beliefs) and ultimately our actions.

A good magician offers us a very lucid lesson for this concept. When the illusion happens, most often our rational mind quickly comes to the rescue… Trying to figure out how, what and why. Similarly is the seeing with the human eye of the world, we are limiting our perceptions to what is possible based on our own experiences. The visionary knows no boundaries or limitations because frankly there are not any. The scope of Universe is beyond our perceptions making anything a possibility and reality.

The Spirit eye sees beyond the magic trick or the illusion, it sees with great precision and clarity what lies beneath it. So, what is the truth? “That ALL things are working for my Good!” Speaking that into every situation we encounter, we become a co-conspirator and active participant in our evolvement process. A visionary understands and appreciates the process. It get’s easier the more we see the outcomes are always better than expected.

This is far from a Pollyanna attitude; it is a knowing that for each situation being presented to us is for our highest good. The world sees it as humans having a spiritual experience; this is simply not the truth. The choice becomes ours to approach from a topical vantage point, the worldview, or seeing your life and others as Spiritual beings having earthly experiences. This is seeing through the eyes of Spirit!

 

JA: What is the difference between being an observer in the world and being a visionary?

CJD: I like to refer to it as an observer conforms to this world’s way of thinking, and the visionary transforms to a Universal way of thought! A visionary actively participates in his/her evolutionary process, and draws from a reservoir of internal wisdom.

In practice: meditate on building your vision. Sit in a dim lit room, close your eyes and imagine that the crown of your head has opened, and light is streaming in feeding you universal wisdom. Allow the light to fill your entire being, feel the warmth of the light, and see it enter into every cell until they glow. Practice this meditation, begin were you are right now, and you will build the time you take for this restorative treatment. Just visualize…not memorize…repeat and enjoy!

You see, when we become actively aware and turn the transformation switch on; our lives can never be the same. This does not come easy for most, because others shape most of our beliefs and traditions.

The road is paved with challenges, disappointments and transitions, but the Visionary knows that with each crossroad, victory is the only absolute. The focus is to keep that end in mind, and with each triumph, one is elevated to a higher level of awareness. Which fuels confidence, faith, hope, patience, love, joy, peace and vision.

The Observer on the other hand fears playing in the sandbox of life. They passively sit back and wait for something or someone to happen to them. Have you ever feared trying or doing something different to the point of paralysis? On the other hand, mentally beating yourself to submit to your own understanding? What has happened to your childhood dreams? FEAR kills dreams, confidence and courage…There is little to no action on the sidelines of life, you must get into the game with enthusiasm and expectation, then you too can enjoy the fruits of being a true visionary.

 

JA: How can we learn to see with true vision?

CJD: Learning to feel comfortable with true vision perception is part of the journey each of us has signed up for in our earthly contract. We each have equal access to all the gifts of Spirit. Remember the renewing of the mind? Universal Spirit is the giving and loving essence, which seeks to give and duplicate itself. The more we vibrate to that essence within our daily activities and thoughts, the Universal flow pours in all types of wonderful gifts.

How to open the heart and allow this generous outpour to fill us?
Desire to know and love thyself.
Love for all people, places and things.
Prayer and Meditation.
A Gracious and forgiving heart.
It may appear odd that I would say, a desire to Know and Love thyself first. I believe that when a person takes personal inventory to know thyself and genuinely love that person, then the capacity to love others is effortless. To love our neighbor as yourself speaks to the one who loves him/herself totally. How about this oxymoron…“How about this oxymoron…“ n becoming selfish, is to live love more authentically”

How many marriages would be saved, if both parties really loved themselves? What about the number of hate crimes? On the other hand, violence due to pious judging and control? The list goes on and on…. True evolvement is to love, and that takes the scales away from the clouded eyes to see with true vision!

 

JA: Rev. Carmen, you inspire my spiritual vision. Whose visionary abilities have you admired?

CJD: Thank you Dr. Jeanine for your generous compliment. I believe that the true essence of any person is one of a visionary. Each of us demonstrates our courage and in many different ways.
However, the person that comes to my immediate mind is Abraham of the Old Testement. He strikes me as a true visionary. Because God’s promise of victory was laid into his mental blueprint and with each challenge his faith grew. One of his most profound action was his obedience to sacrifice his son. Historically Abraham listened and has had visions. This one stretched his faith even more than any other act of faith before. To believe that “all things will be provided in the perfect time of God”, even when nothing can be seen, takes ultimate vision. While lowering his knife, the lamb faint bleep was heard in the time when absolute trust was achieved by Abraham!

The many workers of peace are indeed visionaries. When the appearance of Chaos seems to have many in despair, these people hold the truth as a lamp. Because of their deliberate actions to foster more understanding and peace, we are creating a world that works for everyone. Dr. Jeanine, we all have the foundations laid within us, it is up to us to activate, participate and play in the sandbox of life.

 

JA: What are some gifts that you have received by staying true to a spiritually visionary path?

CJD: The gifts received by my deliberate spiritual visionary walk are amazingly rich. Because they are expanding with each and every day. I believe that as children we are fully charged with the gifts of spirit, then life happens and we disconnect with that purity and innocence. When we make the conscious decision to walk with intension then they return, even more profound.
You know, I make mistakes just like any other, and there are times when I question what is going on from time to time. What is interesting that I am caught red-handed in the cookie jar of my mistake. When I do something or think despairingly against Universal Laws, Spirit instantly slaps my hands. Therefore, I count that quickness of correction a gift. Another gift is my night school or dream state. I have since a child has taken instruction during my sleep.
In my practice, I help people reconnect to the Divinity within, so dialogue with Spirit becomes a nature process. Another is an acute ability to see and connect with others, who are hurting, my gift to hear with the inner ear and assist others with their challenges. This drives my relationship with the Divine. Because each person I help also is helping me, we are just wired that way. Within the eyes of another, the Christ in the Tomb exists, meaning that we all make up the whole consciousness. When we can see the Love within another, the perfection that already exists, then raising the dead is a natural gift manifestation. Dr. Jeanine there are so many gifts of Spirit, and this interview can be only be so long…My hope is that everyone reading this newsletter would take inventory of the blessings within their life first. Each and everyday being thankful for the majestic wonder of life. Because Our Mother/Father takes great joy in granting favor and gifts to all of his children. A person only need to ask with an open heart and it shall be given.

 

JA: How can our readers get in touch with you?

CJD: I can be reached by visiting my website:
www.carmenjday.com
Email: Carmenjday@gmail.com
Telephone: 310-924-9216

Carmen J. Day
The Wealth4U Life Coach
www.carmenjday.com
310-924-9216

More about Rev. Carmen

Carmen J. Day, B.Msc., CHT., and Min. is a speaker, life coach, published author and Broadcast personality. CEO/Founder of Genesis Health Wellness Center in Winnetka, California. She holds seminars, Spiritual treatments, retreats & workshops.